King Diddy

I work for a large club date office out of NYC which recently got the job of playing P. Diddy's 35th birthday party at Cipriani Wall Street.
As a club date player in the Big Apple I see lots of lavish affairs. This trumped all of them in its sheer grandeur. People Magazine et. al will cover the celebrity sightings in detail to be sure.

I turned down my chance to schmooze. For one, I doubted anyone wanted to pay any attention to someone obviously dressed as the hired help that I was. Also, I never did do well at the "all night hang," which probably explains a lot of how my career has gone. I don't drink or do any recreational drugs, and even if I did I doubt I could feel comfortable with myself in that environment. I'm not that particular variety of social animal.

If I was that particular variety of social animal, the kind that can freely circulate at these shindigs and feel comfortable, I might be a touring rock musician today instead of a club date/utilitarian type musician and teacher.
I am a modest, self-effacing personality who does not wish to call attention to himself. I like to let my work speak for itself and get a great sense of pride from that. This is the recipe for not being famous. Which is fine with me.

My guess is that P. Diddy is a very different personality type. He is able to shamelessly self-promote. He is comfortable with commissioning a video montage projected on the walls in which he is referred to as "King Diddy." Self-consciousness does not interfere with hiring women to perform an elaborate, provocative floor show. He is fine with rolling up to his own party two hours after it starts, to a brass fanfare on the red carpet.

I do not say any of this to criticize P. Diddy. It does not take a genius to see that this complete absence of modesty is one of the main components, if not THE main component, of his success. His sheer belief in his own worth somehow convinces those around him. It is almost as if his dream comes true simply because he wills it to be so. In some way or other, this is how anyone's dream comes true. This is not to say P. Diddy didn't have to work for it. But the attitude of entitlement to the kingdom followed him every step of the way.

If he's enjoying himself, great. I would hate being a king.